By creating restorative systems, we make space for conflict, we know it will be part of our life, we know we have complex power dynamic among us, and within us, along with trauma, habits of shame and shaming. The intention is to create the condition of a healing culture, so we don’t end up hurting each over more, or being at risk of exclusion, if anything happen. Rather than being asked to become accountable in a highly suspicious culture, it’s easier to take responsibility, where there is space for conflict, where we know how to get close to conflict together.
In restorative circles, people and relations are seen in their deep humanity and complexity. We listen to each over stories, their relation to system and personal stories of oppression, fear or trauma by respecting each other windows of tolerance. We use somatic and embodied practices to titrate the process and slow down dialogues, so everyone feel heard and understood. We bring participant to take responsibility by sharing about how they feel about what as done and what they were trying to do when they did what they did, making sure they feel heard and understanding in their sharing. And it s only from a place of mutual understanding and desires to contribute that we move toward forms of reparation.
In communities who cherish and share a restorative cultures any members can become the facilitator of each other conflicts (when we re not part of a conflict). It s less a mater of expertise than sharing listening skills and restorative hearts. For now, a few of us host circles for each other
2.1 Reowning our human conflicts (Queer Anarchist Restorative Network) is about sharing Restorative Practices such as restorative circles and systems, to reown and take care of our own conflicts
2.2. Builing Restorative eco systems
2.3 Restorative Stories : storytelling, healing narrative, and speculative fictions